Don’t Forget Whose Life It Is!

Brene and Oprah
Brené Brown speaks with Oprah Winfrey during a Super Soul conversation.

This week, I saw a video of an Oprah Winfrey Super Soul conversation with author Brené Brown. It was a 45-second snippet that really resonated with me. Oprah said, “you cannot live a brave life, without disappointing some people.”

As I stated in my last blog post, I have always had the “disease to please” and hated the idea of disappointing anyone.  I always dreamed about moving across the country and exploring the west side of the country’s coast, but I hated the idea of disappointing my family. We are big, and we are all so close to one another, with tons of holiday and birthday traditions.

Rebecca guiding a tour of Chapman University with family.

In my personal life last year, I experienced some life-shattering events (deaths and betrayals) that seriously rocked me to the core. It peeled back so many layers of my heart that left me completely raw in a way I can’t even express in words. This made me realize that I can’t continuously live a life that was not authentic to me – always dreaming and never doing. How can I go through this life without truly following my heart?

The strength to follow your heart is not always easy, but it is most satisfying and joyful. I know now from experience. Too bad I waited so long,,,but some people wait a lifetime.

At first, I wondered if I had done the right thing. Why do we always second-guess ourselves?

My sister having dinner with me and my husband and son, Jack.

But to be honest, it didn’t last very long. It just felt good. It felt right. It felt like I was where I needed to be.

This past weekend was exhausting but rejuvenating. My sister and niece visited from Florida, and it was a great way to see that just because I moved, didn’t mean I couldn’t enjoy family. We had a blast seeing all of the sights together, and now my parents are planning their trip out here.

Jack and Anjelica at the Griffith Observatory.

Now I can share my love of adventure with my family. Disappointing others is ok. Your life is yours, not someone else’s version of your life. If they’re not ok with your decisions, that’s a reflection of them, not you.

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