It wasn’t until a year ago, when I took the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Test, did I truly understand myself. When my results said that I was an INFJ personality, and I read what it meant, I felt relieved, vindicated, and validated! FINALLY! For so many years, I felt like an oddball.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator was developed by psychiatrist Carl Jung who believed that there are 16 personality types. INFJ stands for I (Introversion), N (Intuition), F (Feeling), J (Judgment) and turns out to be the rarest of them all – only 1% of the population has this particular combination.
What I realized about this personality, is that we are great at presenting ourselves as extroverts – we can schmooze, tell funny stories, avoid awkward silences, and speak in front of a crowd quite effortlessly. However, we are the opposite. We are actually introverts.
Being social can be physically and emotionally draining, to the point that we need a day or two to recover from back-to-back socializing. The holidays, for one, can be particularly exhausting, and it’s necessary to schedule in time to just be alone with our thoughts.
My whole life I knew I was “different.” I had a great time being with friends and family, but I also longed to go to a movie alone, get lost in a bookstore, or just sit at home and revel in doing absolutely nothing.
Growing up as a teen, there were many nights when I preferred to sit home and watch TV with my parents, while my friends were out partying. In college, I loved having nights to just drink hot cocoa and watch some cheesy Lifetime movie instead of going out to fraternities or clubs.
To this day, I still love spending a day to myself – getting lost in my own thoughts, journaling, blogging, or reading. Every once in awhile, I’ll watch TV.
I find myself having to push myself outside of my comfort zone to socialize more and put myself out there, but now that I understand myself better, I find it easier to balance my social life with my introverted self. I know when I need to recharge my battery, so I can be ready to tackle my job as a teacher or go out on the weekend.
Are any of you INFJs? Would love your comments.
To read up more on the INFJ personality, click here.
To take an online Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Test, click here.